Some solutions:

1. Learn ways to postpone your negative expectations. Replace anxious thoughts with, “Does this really matter? I can wait a bit and see”. Or ,” Something better may come up instead of what I had planned”  Or, “I will pause and see how I feel about doing this a bit later.” Try to give yourself a little bit of time and space to be more objective about the problem.

2. Check in with yourself. Do you really want this? Many times tension about future events masks a lack of desire to do something. We confuse the feelings.  The anxiety is actually a sign that we are not aligned with our real needs or desires.

3. Learn the language of your intuition. Tension may be a sign that you are not aligned with the broad flow of our life at that moment. Your mind tells you to go with your PLAN, your gut is telling you not do do so…and it will be right.

Example: you planned to bake a cake, but can’t seem to get around to it, so you are now anxious. Instead of pushing forward with your plan drop the baking for now, do something you like instead – like surfing the net or doing your nails or getting a nap. You will feel resistance and doubt, but give it a try. You may find that after doing your nails, a knock comes on the door and a visitor comes and brings a coffee cake.

Your learning curve is to discover how your intuition speaks, its language. So that you can TRUST your intuition. Your intuition knows things your mind has not learned yet. The mind processes data and sensory information. Intuition is linked to a broad field of information, like invisible sensors spread far and wide and picking up on REAL DATA and not just the superficial and deceptive physical feedback your mind gets.

All forms of anxiety come from our thinking, when we are not grounded in reality.

Learn to be in present time. Learn to interpret the messages of your inner knowing. Rely on your mind only to carry out decisions made on the basis of intuition and rational observation. The result will be a calm and solid inner experience and a magical unfolding of life – each event at the right time, no unnecessary tasks, lots of room for feeling and creating from your own heart.

When it is a cold, for real.

Early separation causes stress that a child cannot resolve at such a tender age, it has no tools to deal with the emotional pain. Eventually children will adapt by shutting down their emotions, by becoming indifferent to the trauma, by suppressing it. In most cases, this will be expressed externally as allergies, colds, etc.2. Vaccinations. Most kids are vaccinated since birth nowadays. Most of the time they sniffle not because of a cold, but due to toxicity that is not being addressed. Poor food, deficiencies, exposure to computers and tv, poor sleeping habits – all of this, combined with repeated toxic shock from frequent vaccines, causes a deep destabilization of the health of a child.

Medicating is not the answer

Most kids start taking medication very early – for fevers and rashes and colds.

It is best to not give medication for fevers or colds. Suppressing them leaves a child vulnerable to future illness because their body was never allowed to complete the process of “infection-response-healing”, with “healing” being a major component in this process. Our body creates strong defences and healthy organs by fighting illness. If a disease process can’t conclude naturally, the new defences are never put in place, leaving a child vulnerable and always a little bit sick.

Parents’ feelings – both irritant and cure

Parents of young children suffer from major changes in life: from a life of independence to one of confusion and increased demand on their time and new responsibilities, adjustments and daily irritants. It can be really overwhelming.

A tired and stressed mother emits a discordant energetic field, invisible to the eye, but directly felt by the children. All children to the age of 7-8 are living in the emotional atmosphere of the parents, and especially the mom. Regulating our emotions will give results that no medication can offer.

We all know the saying “Soaks it all up like a sponge”. Well, children do soak it all up. When we hide our true feelings, our babies not only feel what we feel but they are also confused by the appearance of calm, by the mis-match between our soothing words and our inner irritation.

Do not get discouraged or feel guilty. Instead, use this knowledge to help yourself and your child. Find ways to calm down and approach your child with open heart and with love, as often as you can. The sensation of inner peace, love and acceptance strengthens a baby’s inner balance, allowing for more resilience to temporary storms at home.

And remember – nobody knows how to be a parent until the baby comes. And then we all learn by trial and error. It is a humbling process, one that chips away at our ego – that ego that we developed by being children ourselves! Think back to your own childhood – what did you most yearn for? What did you most suffer from? Chances are your child is going through the same steps right now.

Dynamic Medicine. Flower Essences. Meditation. Supplements

Do not disregard natural methods that can help – nobody ever fixed their problems without a little help from outside!

There are many good dynamic remedies, flower essences, balms, baths, supplements and stress relief techniques that you can use for yourself mostly, but also for baby. A calm and serene environment creates a solid foundation for the future of your relationship with your child and for your baby’s adult emotional life.